Check out my new strawberry shaped colander, cuuuuuuute. Well that's not actually it as I can't photo it as my camera was smashed if you remember? Anyhoooooooooooo I was gutted as they had all super cute strawberry stuff in Tesco, but as I can't actually use my kitchen *karate chops manky dampness and hurts hand as the dampness is attached to wall* I decided not to buy any of it, but I simply couldn't leave this little sweetheart behind. Oh I can't wait to get a house one day that I can use and have pretty things in. Ohhh and ED has just ordered me a 24 hole mini muffin tin *eeeek tiny little things here we come!!*Anyway, I have been a bit dark lately. Yesterday I found my self writing a list of everything I hate about my kid whilst he was driving me nuts. His behaviour is killing me just now. And look, I know he is 5. I know he is autistic. I know he has problems with a hell of a lot of stuff but this is not ok. Anybody got any blogs/book recommendations/not patronising advice for challenging behaviour for kids around 5/6? Like before I jump (or get thrown out) a window. He's getting bigger, and he is already so strong, surprisingly as I am worried about his upper body strength!!
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I found 5/6 really hard with my nt son. I think it is a challenging age - my only advice is consequences count now so you need a list of unnacceptable behaviour and consequences egg understands and then stick to it. I don't know how relevant this is for an autistic kid but the predictability is good for nt or autistic. put it in a format egg can read and keep it visable
nope hes always been like this, he's never had an "age", thanks for the advice but I cant do anything, seriously no matter what I do it makes things a million times worse. Gah.
Just found this for you
http://yesvote.org.nz/2009/06/08/changing-your-childs-behaviour-carrot-or-stick/
Interesting
Px
lists are good, I like lists. Putting it on paper can be a big help in getting it out of your system, it's one reason I write (as you know ;)) Jamie has never behaved age typical either, very frustrating at times. Make another list of all the things you love about him and keep that one pinned up. Then look at it when you're haveing a bad day. It's so hard to be possitive when you suffer from the conditions we suffer from though. Sometimes you've just got to get through the days until it gets better. And it WILL get better, trust me, I've been there.
What about a swimming class? It's a great (non-stress) exercise for upper body. It can be arranged locally and at a community centre pool so it's not costly, and you can sit in the parents observation area with a coffee in your hands and take a much deserved break, even if it's only for 30 minutes.
My girls (5 and 6.5) take public swimming lessons every Sunday and I love that half hour.
Brenda
oh can you bake a batch of mini chocolate chip muffins? me first! I mean, "please."
I second the swimming advice. constant flow of procieptive input = happy autistic kid = happy mama
gads.
wish
i
had
answers.
you
need
to
get
away
from
him
for
a
while.
see?
you
make
fun
of
me
but
that's
why
i
scrapbook.
to
get
away.
perhaps
you
should
pretend
you
like
cutting
up
pictures
and
shit?
and
yes,
my
space
bar
is
still
feckered
up
the
arse.
Did somebody ask for a book recommendation? *pants gleefully while running to bookshelf to find the ones she's thinking of bookaddictbookaddictbookaddict*
Both of these books are targeted to families of Asperger kids, but I found them both helpful for my boys who reside on the autie part of the spectrum:
1. Asperger Syndrome and Difficult Moments: Practical Solutions for Tantrums, Rage, and Meltdowns by Brenda Smith Myles - This book was written for teachers, but it has lots of great tips you can use at home. And it makes even the weirdest crap our kids pull make sense by explaining what motivates it.
2. Finding our Way: Practical Solutions for Creating a Supportive Home and Community for the Asperger Syndrome Family by Kristi Sakai. I like this book because it makes me laugh e.g. Page 30 has a list of "Twelve Good Things Having Three Children with Asperger Syndrome", and # 11 is "I never have to wonder if I have bad breath. Someone always tells me."
That felt great. *smokes virtual cigarette*
I have yet to come across a good book on challenging behaviour.
Apprently doing martial arts are good for our guys as it teaches self control etc
http://www.martialartstalk.net/self-defence/martial-arts-and-autism.html
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